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Should I tell my boss's wife he is a cheater?
over 2 years ago
8
When are you going to do a TED talk on infidelity? We can't have Esther Perel being the only voice on infidelity!
over 2 years ago
When are you going to do a TED talk on infidelity? We can't have Esther Perel being the only voice on infidelity!
8
While obviously older children want to continue their relationship with a cheating parent, this can feel like betrayal. How to accept this?
over 2 years ago
While obviously older children want to continue their relationship with a cheating parent, this can feel like betrayal. How to accept this?
7
I am now in meh and dating. I worry about my picker and the fact I have chump tendencies. What can I do to improve my chance of choosing a good mate
over 2 years ago
I am now in meh and dating. I worry about my picker and the fact I have chump tendencies. What can I do to improve my chance of choosing a good mate
7
As I come up on the 1st anniversary of d-day, and nearing finalization of divorce, I'm wondering - where's the karma bus??
over 2 years ago
As I come up on the 1st anniversary of d-day, and nearing finalization of divorce, I'm wondering - where's the karma bus??
7
How do I stop talking about my lying, serial cheating ex? I'm still so angry that he fooled me for so long, but I want him out of my thoughts!
over 2 years ago
How do I stop talking about my lying, serial cheating ex? I'm still so angry that he fooled me for so long, but I want him out of my thoughts!
7
In your opinion, why do we chumps have such a hard time accepting the reality of our situation, even in cases of extreme narcissism and abuse?
over 2 years ago
In your opinion, why do we chumps have such a hard time accepting the reality of our situation, even in cases of extreme narcissism and abuse?
6
How would you respond when your own family ( mom, sisters, etc. ) say they won't pick sides and stay friends with your ex?
over 2 years ago
6
How do you control the sick at your stomach reaction when you see an email from your ex?
over 2 years ago
How do you control the sick at your stomach reaction when you see an email from your ex?
6
How do you handle seeing the cheater at events like graduation, wedding, etc?
over 2 years ago
How do you handle seeing the cheater at events like graduation, wedding, etc?
6
Learned my soon to be ex is truly an antisocial psychopathic narcissist. Any way to covey that to others without coming off like a bitter bitch?
over 2 years ago
Learned my soon to be ex is truly an antisocial psychopathic narcissist. Any way to covey that to others without coming off like a bitter bitch?
6
What are the best tips to move past the fury and rage a cheater's betrayal creates?
over 2 years ago
What are the best tips to move past the fury and rage a cheater's betrayal creates?
6
Tracy - will you please start a YouTube Chump Lady channel? That will really help get you out there on an even larger scale!
over 2 years ago
5
Will I survive losing everything that I hold precious to me: Home, friends, family, and parenting my children
over 2 years ago
Will I survive losing everything that I hold precious to me: Home, friends, family, and parenting my children
5
What do I say when people ask what happened? I want to say "lying, cheating, etc" but thats not the high rs.
over 2 years ago
What do I say when people ask what happened? I want to say "lying, cheating, etc" but thats not the high rs.
5
How long does it typically take to get over being betrayed?
over 2 years ago
5
Does having to analyze cheaters daily ever depress you?
over 2 years ago
Does having to analyze cheaters daily ever depress you?
5
Major betrayal (no cheating, realized he's a narc) people tell me to not rush, get over it, forgive/forget, open my heart... I want to divorce.
over 2 years ago
4
Should I tell the wife of my boss that he is a long-term cheater?
over 2 years ago
4
I realize this is trying to untangle the skein but how does a cheater come to terms that their cheating is more important than their intact family?
over 2 years ago
I realize this is trying to untangle the skein but how does a cheater come to terms that their cheating is more important than their intact family?
4
Why does he stay in relationship if does not want couple life - just for family life? He: serial cheater one night stands, porn, stripclubs.
over 2 years ago
4
What helped you to realize that living with a cheater was not worth the suffering? What made you wake up & value yourself?
over 2 years ago
What helped you to realize that living with a cheater was not worth the suffering? What made you wake up & value yourself?
4
How can children of a cheater for a parent ever pre-qualify & ask the exactly right questions to NOT end up with a cheater themselves?
over 2 years ago
4
husband not a cheater, but has many cheater behaviors Chump Nation describes -lizard eyes, "what do I need you for", controlling. Any wisdom?
over 2 years ago
3
Now that we are headed for court, he's become "father of the year". How do I deal with this (anger) without looking like the the deranged ex?
over 2 years ago
Now that we are headed for court, he's become "father of the year". How do I deal with this (anger) without looking like the the deranged ex?
3
Why can't he just treat me and the kids fairly in the divorce? Everything is a dealbreaker for him!!
over 2 years ago
Why can't he just treat me and the kids fairly in the divorce? Everything is a dealbreaker for him!!
3
I see so many chumps on the site go NC with great success. Huge struggle/failure point for me. Tips?
over 2 years ago
I see so many chumps on the site go NC with great success. Huge struggle/failure point for me. Tips?
3
When you create a post about a published article (ie: imperfect beginnings), have the authors ever contacted you to defend their position?
over 2 years ago
When you create a post about a published article (ie: imperfect beginnings), have the authors ever contacted you to defend their position?
3
Do you or did you have a hard time blogging and writing with your real name about being cheated on?
over 2 years ago
Do you or did you have a hard time blogging and writing with your real name about being cheated on?
3
On your blog you recommend deposing the affair partner in some cases; how can this best be used as advantage in no fault states?
over 2 years ago
On your blog you recommend deposing the affair partner in some cases; how can this best be used as advantage in no fault states?
3
My son is starting college and wants my ex and I at everything; orientation, move in, homecoming, etc. . How do I get him to see that's unreasonable?
over 2 years ago
3
I desperately want to take revenge on the OW. Get her fired or deported. Tell her elderly parents. Should I?
over 2 years ago
I desperately want to take revenge on the OW. Get her fired or deported. Tell her elderly parents. Should I?
2
Can you please have a glossary of abbreviations on your site. I just can't figure out a lot of them. Am dying to know them all. Thanks!!
over 2 years ago
2
How do you best support your young adult children when they realize that dad doesn't really want to have anything to do with them?
over 2 years ago
How do you best support your young adult children when they realize that dad doesn't really want to have anything to do with them?
2
What do we say to the family/wreckconciliation promoters who try to guilt trip us? The "oh you didn't try hard enough, you Must forgive" tribe?
over 2 years ago
What do we say to the family/wreckconciliation promoters who try to guilt trip us? The "oh you didn't try hard enough, you Must forgive" tribe?
2
Should I confront EX and his AP on their tendency to treat me like excrement? Why do they act this way? They got what they wanted.
over 2 years ago
Should I confront EX and his AP on their tendency to treat me like excrement? Why do they act this way? They got what they wanted.
2
How do I truly move past caring what my ex thinks of me?
over 2 years ago
How do I truly move past caring what my ex thinks of me?
2
Do you ever anonymously post on reconciliation sites to try to save newbies from living the nightmare?
over 2 years ago
Do you ever anonymously post on reconciliation sites to try to save newbies from living the nightmare?
2
What led you to label infidelity as abuse where others can sometimes romanticize it?
over 2 years ago
What led you to label infidelity as abuse where others can sometimes romanticize it?
2
My husband ended his 3 yr affair, & MOW vindictively outed him w/ anonymous photos. Why shouldn't I destroy her consequence-free home life & job???
over 2 years ago
My husband ended his 3 yr affair, & MOW vindictively outed him w/ anonymous photos. Why shouldn't I destroy her consequence-free home life & job???
2
I have read your book, I subscribe to your blog, I know that I know your advice is spot on....I still replay what my ex did to me...help
over 2 years ago
I have read your book, I subscribe to your blog, I know that I know your advice is spot on....I still replay what my ex did to me...help
2
Many therapists recommend NOT telling children that one parent has cheated. Why do you advocate telling children the truth about infidelity?
over 2 years ago
Many therapists recommend NOT telling children that one parent has cheated. Why do you advocate telling children the truth about infidelity?
2
I am afraid to meet anyone now because of what I fear they might do to hurt me. How can I get past this new fear in my life?
over 2 years ago
2
Hard Q to answer, sorry - How does one get to the state of MEH when one has been inflicted with an STD from cheater? My blood still boils!!
over 2 years ago
Hard Q to answer, sorry - How does one get to the state of MEH when one has been inflicted with an STD from cheater? My blood still boils!!
1
Being divorced is one of my biggest fears of being a failure in marriage. What can I expect leaving my cheater?
over 2 years ago
Being divorced is one of my biggest fears of being a failure in marriage. What can I expect leaving my cheater?
1
Why do you think that the notions of affairs being 'sexy' and 'reconciliation' dominate the infidelity narrative?
over 2 years ago
Why do you think that the notions of affairs being 'sexy' and 'reconciliation' dominate the infidelity narrative?
1
Do you know of any "one mistake" cheaters who wholeheartedly regret their infidelity and have shown they are committed to not doing so again?
over 2 years ago
Do you know of any "one mistake" cheaters who wholeheartedly regret their infidelity and have shown they are committed to not doing so again?
1
As a former betrayed spouse, do you constantly wonder if your current partner will cheat?
over 2 years ago
As a former betrayed spouse, do you constantly wonder if your current partner will cheat?
1
The audio is very low on the past few recordings. volume turned up all the way and I can't hear the most recent posts. thanks!
over 2 years ago
1
Do you distinguish the "exit affair" as different than other type affairs (serial, etc) in that it is more understandable or excusable?
over 2 years ago
Do you distinguish the "exit affair" as different than other type affairs (serial, etc) in that it is more understandable or excusable?
1
who is tracy schorn?
over 2 years ago
who is tracy schorn?
1
How to get to "meh" when every day is a reminder of him getting his perfect life of part-time dad/single guy, and me losing everything?
over 2 years ago
How to get to "meh" when every day is a reminder of him getting his perfect life of part-time dad/single guy, and me losing everything?