Thank you for your question
"How can parents help their teenagers
"be successful in high school?"
First of all, there's probably five key things
that stand out to me as it relates to teenagers
being successful in high school and how you can help them.
First and foremost, you've gotta set the standard.
You've gotta go to open houses, parent-teacher conferences,
communicate with the teacher,
whether that be a written note or e-mail.
Why? Because if you want your teenager to value education
you have to demonstrate that you do as well.
So first and foremost at the outset,
you gotta set that standard.
Secondly, set some goals with your teenager
as the new year begins here.
What do they want to accomplish,
what are they looking to achieve?
Is it a GPA, is it passing a difficult class,
is it considering some career options
through some electives?
But set some standards or some goals with your child
in an effort to get them on the right track.
Next, I certainly would encourage that piece of homework.
You gotta be involved in that homework process.
And I know that goes without saying,
but I think what's important here to realize
is that with my students I always say
there's two parts to homework.
There's the written homework that's due the next day,
every day, depending on the class,
and also there's that review piece,
reviewing the last couple days of notes
or homework assignments or papers
in an effort to stay on top of things,
so that when a test does come up
the student doesn't have to review everything that happened
the last three weeks, let's say.
But because they've been reviewing on a daily basis
they're more able to stay on top of things
and therefore have that material fresh in their mind.
Fourth, and this is critical to me
as I've been a counselor over the years,
and that is talk with your teenagers.
Not just about the schoolwork or the homework that they have
but also what's going on in their lives.
I've found that academic progress can be impeded or stopped
just by the very nature
of what they're dealing with personally.
It could be a grief and loss issue,
could be an issue with a friendship,
could be something that happened at school to a friend.
Just about anything is possible.
That's why I wrote the book you'll see
over my shoulder there, "Behind the Counselor's Door".
It gives an opportunity for someone
to go behind my office door
and see the real issues that I've worked with,
with students behind my office door
in an effort to help them
overcome obstacles in life and achieve greatness.
Everything from homework to college planning
to career planning to drugs and alcohol,
sex and dating, and grief and loss
are all included in there.
So certainly check that out.
You can check that out at HCIbooks.com if you search
"Behind the Counselor's Door".
And lastly, celebrate success.
Whatever strides your teenager is making in school,
celebrate that, recognize and affirm their efforts,
knowing that they have made progress towards their goals
and what they want to accomplish
in their school year this year.
Thanks for the question and I hope that helps
and I hope you'll check out my book there,
"Behind the Counselor's Door".