Thank you for your question

"How can parents help their teenagers

"be successful in high school?"

First of all, there's probably five key things

that stand out to me as it relates to teenagers

being successful in high school and how you can help them.

First and foremost, you've gotta set the standard.

You've gotta go to open houses, parent-teacher conferences,

communicate with the teacher,

whether that be a written note or e-mail.

Why? Because if you want your teenager to value education

you have to demonstrate that you do as well.

So first and foremost at the outset,

you gotta set that standard.

Secondly, set some goals with your teenager

as the new year begins here.

What do they want to accomplish,

what are they looking to achieve?

Is it a GPA, is it passing a difficult class,

is it considering some career options

through some electives?

But set some standards or some goals with your child

in an effort to get them on the right track.

Next, I certainly would encourage that piece of homework.

You gotta be involved in that homework process.

And I know that goes without saying,

but I think what's important here to realize

is that with my students I always say

there's two parts to homework.

There's the written homework that's due the next day,

every day, depending on the class,

and also there's that review piece,

reviewing the last couple days of notes

or homework assignments or papers

in an effort to stay on top of things,

so that when a test does come up

the student doesn't have to review everything that happened

the last three weeks, let's say.

But because they've been reviewing on a daily basis

they're more able to stay on top of things

and therefore have that material fresh in their mind.

Fourth, and this is critical to me

as I've been a counselor over the years,

and that is talk with your teenagers.

Not just about the schoolwork or the homework that they have

but also what's going on in their lives.

I've found that academic progress can be impeded or stopped

just by the very nature

of what they're dealing with personally.

It could be a grief and loss issue,

could be an issue with a friendship,

could be something that happened at school to a friend.

Just about anything is possible.

That's why I wrote the book you'll see

over my shoulder there, "Behind the Counselor's Door".

It gives an opportunity for someone

to go behind my office door

and see the real issues that I've worked with,

with students behind my office door

in an effort to help them

overcome obstacles in life and achieve greatness.

Everything from homework to college planning

to career planning to drugs and alcohol,

sex and dating, and grief and loss

are all included in there.

So certainly check that out.

You can check that out at if you search

"Behind the Counselor's Door".

And lastly, celebrate success.

Whatever strides your teenager is making in school,

celebrate that, recognize and affirm their efforts,

knowing that they have made progress towards their goals

and what they want to accomplish

in their school year this year.

Thanks for the question and I hope that helps

and I hope you'll check out my book there,

"Behind the Counselor's Door".

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